Manual 2022 Conference: Act like a Lady, Think Like a Boss

*clears cobweb *

Happy New Year Darlings!

I really do hope we are all enjoying 2022 so far. We’re in the 8th day of the second month and let’s just say God has been gracious so far.

Abeg una no go too vess for me. One of the perks of being a writer is that there are periods you really want to write but you can’t seem to put pen on paper (in my own case type on my phone to post here)

Guess what I have a podcast too. I haven’t even posted there since October 2021. Ye, who stoned me! It’s not my fault nau. Okay, no excuses, this year would be different. I’ll write here, on my blog and post on my podcast more often this year. So help me God.

https://anchor.fm/abisola-farida-sanusi/episodes/Overcoming-Fear-e18fabu. Here’s the link to the last podcast episode though. You’re welcome

Anyways enough shalaye

I’ve always been a huge lover of Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo (Pastor Kay ) and Pastor Mildred Okonkwo (Pastor M). You don’t even have the slightest cclue how many of their YouTube videos I’ve watched. They are such a huge blessing . I love how they preach the gospel in such a relatable and fun to listen to manner. They give me (and so many others I believe) the hope and the reassurance that marrying the right person is indeed a beautiful thing . Farida focus, this writing isn’t solely about the reasons I love Pastor Kay and Pastor M and their ministry. It’s about the Manual Conference 2022 which you went for on Sunday.

So I had been seeing the billboard of the Manual Conference 2022 almost everyday everytime I go out and where it was going to hold on Sunday no reach 1k transport from my house so I and my baby girl Comfort decided to register and go for the Conference. I mean, it did look like it was going to make sense. That was the best decision I made and the reason why is the crux of this blog post.

The Conference was a huge success from the beginning till the end.

It felt surreal being in the same room listening to both Pastor Kay and Pastor M speak. Pastor M basically launched and marketed her husband’s book 7 things I badly want to tell women (which is his birthday gift to women btw) while Pastor Kay charged us and spoke about 7 Limiting mindsets women have. They are;

1. I am beautiful and that is all that matters.

He said this one major lie ladies believe and that apart from being beautiful, we should develop being smart as beauty is not everything.

According to him, Your hair should not be more expensive than your head. Omo . This one enter sha.

Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful face on an empty head.
Proverbs 11:22 MSG

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. Proverbs 31:30 MSG

2. I can’t make money without trading my body.

3. It’s a man’s world

According to him, this is a huge lie especially as these days women everywhere are showing us that you can go as far as you want and achieve great feats.

4. I won’t be able to get a good man so let me manage a bad one .

It is better to be single than to be with a bad man. It is better to be unmarried than marry a cheating, beating man thinking and believing that marriage would change him. If he’s cheating before marriage, it might get worse in the marriage, if he’s hitting you before marriage, he might turn you to a punching bag when you marry. Take your time and marry right rather than regret marrying the wrong person. There is no scarcity with God.

5. I am inferior and incomplete without marriage.

Immediately I heard this one I was like Preach it Pastor Kay, please tell them, louder please . Marriage is work, it is an assignment rather than an achievement.

6. It’s a man’s job to take care of you

This one too sweet my belle. Let a man take care of you because he wants to not because he needs to. Stop being materialistic and waiting for a man to buy you things you can buy for yourself. When ya not disabled why should he be made to take care of you like it’s his job. Stop letting men devalue you because of material things. Be rich. That same car he’s taking you out in you can also buy one and be a car owner as well.

Ladies that have rich sugar daddies funding their needs usually have issues when they marry someone who can’t keep up with the life they’re used to. Imagine someone used to entering private jet, ya now telling her come we’re travelling with night bus oh. Problem!

If he acquires you like a furniture, he will treat you like one. Be industrious like the Proverbs 31 woman.

7. I can’t control how I feel

You are a meaningful specific. Find your purpose now before you get married. Marry a man that helps you fly,that is committed to your dreams. Manage your emotions. Don’t believe what he says,believe how he lives/his actions.

The major speaker was Mrs. Yemisi Edun , MD of First City Monument Bank (FCMB) Oh boy! She’s so pretty and a huge vibe, she made so much sense and was not boring at all.

We sang Sinach’s I know who I am before we started and she charged us to always sing it daily before we start the day’s hustle and bustle to remind us about who we really are. She say make una no chew mouth dey sing only “bla bla bla, I am” say make una learn the lyrics and sing them correctly. Once you play it repeatedly for about a week it’ll flow naturally no worry.

Her topic was How females thrive in male dominated industries.

People grow up believing different societal norms such as a woman’s place is in the kitchen, you shouldn’t speak too much etc but no matter your background you can retrain yourself.

As women, we are constantly learning and getting degrees hence her message would be labelled using the acronym PHD’S.

P. Praise. Always look for a reason to praise God.

Prayer. Empower yourself. Do the Prayer so you do not become the prey

H. Hardwork. Hardwork doesn’t kill. Laziness does.

Honesty. People should be able to rely on and trust you. Let people know what you stand for, who you are and what you are. Be objective. Be a person of value. Know and learn when to say No.

D. Determination. Set goals. Determination is a way to success. Don’t listen to excuses. Stop letting excuses stop you. Go for it.

Diligence. Proverbs 22: 19. Pay attention to details. Show what you have to thrive.

Study. Keep learning.

Support System . Build a Support system ❤. Let your husband know your vision and support you. Get a man that compliments you.

Socialise/ Network purposefully. Go out. Don’t live a triangular life. Omo, she dragged most of us with this one sha.

Soro Soke!

Now lemme drop extra gist!

I was able to get a selfie with Pastor M. OMG! She’s so so beautiful 😍. Her smile is just so pretty 😍.

I got one of Pastor M’s books and walked up to her to please sign the copy for me. I killed two birds with one stone. A lovely book signed by the author and an opportunity to talk to her and get a picture too. Smart move right!.

I’m such a sucker for books personally signed by the author.

The person I gave to use Snapchat to take a picture with Pastor Kay during the book signing say is “Ah the picture is blurry oh. Turns out it wasn’t blurry in the end.

Pastor Kay then said oya let’s do a selfie then.

And that’s how I got two pictures with Pastor Kay and got the chance to tell him he replied my birthday wish to him on Instagram and I was glad he did.

Another of my signed books written by my lecturer in uni. I’ve always been a sucker for signed books. I got the book even though I had a copy of the previous edition simply because he was going to sign it.

This might just be a sign that I may be a writer and author and actually sign copies of my book to people. Who knows?

I should attend more conferences like this. Please invite me if you know of any oh. Tainz and God bless 🙌